Adapting and Self-Esteem

Updated: Jan 30

What a year this 2020 has been for us.

In many ways, a majority of people have had to adapt to ever changing information and expectations. Some have been able to cope while others have felt overwhelmed. Some have watched their plans get delayed, re-routed or even stopped cold.

This can leave people feeling unsure if they had the skills set and abilities to work toward and achieve their dreams in the first place. Some persons feel like fakes, a strong case of “imposter syndrome.” Others may have felt wobbly and didn’t have the support in place to help them catch their breath while they reviewed what options might still be viable.

Below is a video by Hank Green, Vlogbrothers/VidCon - XOXO Festival (2014)*. In it, Hank speaks about dreams. I won’t give away the punch of his discussion, but there’s a lot in his discussion that speaks to holding on to ideals and dreams that may no longer be realistic in the current context of who a person is now. (*A note: the video has NSFW language. He gets a bit sweary.)

Many persons hold on to dreams from an earlier version of themselves, and their confidence ebbs as they see how far the dream is from being achieved. Many persons not realizing that maybe the dream doesn’t quite fit them now, doubt their ability to succeed. Anxiety shows up for the ride to feed those doubts. Sometimes, that can feed into depression.

In a year of pandemic where so much has changed, ended or been revised, more people are feeling lost and unsure. It can happen to anyone, of any background, at any age.

It can help to talk to a trusted friend or relative, find online support among like-minded persons, and information from online tutorials and videos.

If it’s too overwhelming, and you don’t know where to start, reach out and speak to a professional.

Take care, and stay safe!


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