Updated: Jan 30
Holiday Week One, of three, for the season.
Many, many persons are going to be with their families this week. Holidays are filled with such longing, expectations (realistic or exaggerated), and intense emotions. This year of pandemic and politics has been a doozie, and will likely intensify the emotions within the family. And family histories of trauma can exacerbate emotions.
People usually want to avoid conflict, but there are others that thrive on those interactions. All persons have rules of engagement. It can be difficult to disengage, and attempt to try new methods of communication, when there are significant repercussions and fallout from deviating from the family norm. Fights, estrangements, and at the extreme end, being ostracized.
Most persons are aware of what is waiting for them as the family gathers. And with any potential conflict area, it's smart to have a strategic plan either to deflect and distract or just get the heck of out Dodge, even if it's just popping off the family Zoom call. Know the lay of the land, who will be there also working to keep a level head and cool temper, and which ones will likely stir the pot. Develop an exit strategy if things become too heated.
Holidays can also stir up issues that may have been put off to the side, to deal with at a later date. There is help available, professionals to provide a space to discuss conflicts, work through issues, and grow.
Take care, and stay safe! - Susan
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